How do I stop my phobias and anxieties from literally taking over my life? Please Help!?

Please help me! I have like a gazillion phobias & anxieties I’m terrified of everything - flying: I think it might crash, cockroaches, needles, the dark, ghosts/paranormal things, dying, pain, heights, growing old, fire, the dentist, crickets, going in a car because i think it might crash, I’m claustrophobic, I won’t go anywhere on my own or if I don’t know anyone, scared of going to sleep because I get terrible nightmares … I could go on and on seriously!! I even get anxious when I pick up the phone! My heart pounds in my throat and I can’t breath properly. It doesn’t help either that I have asthma which just makes it worse!!

Also I’m a terribly hopeless romantic but I’m also scared that if I meet someone in the future he’ll end up being a killer or something or he’ll just leave me at the alter like you hear about those stories of guys who are all perfect untill you get married and then they’ll turn on you. When I see a movie you know how they have the guy and the girl who look into each others eyes when they’re about to kiss for the first time and then I think awwww how romantic, then I think how scary it could be and my heart starts pounding.

We went overseas two years ago on a huge trip we went to 6 countries and I was fine before that, cause we’d been overseas before and I used to love flying, but then suddenly when they closed the doors I started to freak out! and every little tiny thing that wasn’t perfect I freaked out and thought the plane was gonna crash. My tray table was loose once and I thought well what if everything else is loose what if the engine falls of the wing and then the plane crashes and we all die! Also, remember the TWA 800? Apparently these girls were offered a different flight and so they took it and thats the plane that blew up .. well the same thing happened when we left london to go to dubai, the check in guy said do we want to take another flight 1 hour earlier because it was only half full or something so my dad said we would and then I started to freak and think the same thing was gonna happen to our plane! Obviously I got here safe, but I’m scared that because I’ve been on nearly 20 flights in my life that the next one I go on the plane will crash because the more times you go on a plane the more likely it is to crash.

Now my biggest problem of all is my extreme phobia of the dentist! I’m sooo scared of going that if I ever get a toothache or something wrong with my teeth in the future, I just won’t go and’ll end up having heart disease or something which I’m terrified of that also but my brain just tell’s me it won’t be as bad as going to the dentist which I know it’ll of course be tonnes worse then the dentist but I physically can not go to the dentist. And then I’m scared that I’m gonna get high blood pressure because I keep freaking out about these things and that causes major major stress.

I need like a million hypnotherapy lessons or something to cure all these phobias because theyre literally just taking over my life but is there any way I can get over them myself I can’t exactly shell out the money for a hypnotherapist because I’m only 18, or if I do end up getting the money for one from somewhere, I’m scared that because I have all these phobias it’s too much to cure and I’ll be a hopeless case. What do I do to get over my phobias myself, Please please help me!!! This is literally taking over my life and my rationallity.

And please no rude answers!

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