How much time for someone to change?
Say you were in an awful long term relationship and constantly unhappy. You tried couples counseling with two different therapists but it did not help the situation. Finally, your partner has a moment of clarity/embarrasment/responsibility due to a recent incident realizing he is to blame and agrees to individual psychotherapy. This person is going to therapy and taking prescribed medication as directed. The issues are still there.
How long do you give the person to change- how understanding and compassionate until you finally say: enough, it’s not working ?
Personal experience, professional opinions, etc. all are welcomed.
Posted in Psychotherapy Counseling
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June 30th, 2009 at 7:26 pm
sound like to me the time is NOW! why make yourself even more miserable by staying there? if he has done all this therapy and still no change…probably time to call it quits!
life is too short to be miserable. at least you both can say, you did try!
June 30th, 2009 at 7:26 pm
No timeline. Only you can say. If you don’t see him at least START to change immediately, I’d question how serious *he* is about making it work though.
June 30th, 2009 at 7:26 pm
Time will tell, the answer to your questions is if you love your partner you must help out of his problems and being patience and receptive.Hope this will help.God Bless You
June 30th, 2009 at 7:26 pm
only oneself can answer that question. if i am in that situation, either of the two. if i am so sick and tired of the situation and no longer can see what we are heading then its time to let go and move on, yet if there is even a pinch of hope that i see i better hold on no matter how long it would take. only one’s self can decide what fate to choose and what path to take. better to think what will make you happy not only for today but for lifetime, not only for yourself but for the sake of others.
bongga!
June 30th, 2009 at 7:26 pm
A person is only going to change, if he or she wants to change themselves. You can’t change anyone! If have been through therapy and nothing has changed, it probably won’t change. I can’t tell you when it’s time to call it quits, that’s a decision you have to make on your own!
June 30th, 2009 at 7:26 pm
BE the change you want to see in the people in you life.
We all are reflections of the company we keep.