If i constantly and obsessively have the thought that i am ugly, does it mean that i have OCD?
I am 23 and i have already seen about 5 psychiatrists and about 7 psychotherapists in the past. The first ones told me i have a "depressive episode" or "depressive syndrome" and gave me Prozac. The second ones told me i didn’t need pills but psychotherapy which i didn’t find any useful. I started to feel ugly at 12 when i first heard from my colleagues that i have ugly features and since then i have been hearing it from people on the street too. My advantage is that i have a beautiful body; but i can also objectively affirm that i have an ugly face; it’s stuck in my head. I know that there are people who have real problems, i know there is war, poverty etc., but i am so self-centered and cannot get ahead of it: that’s just my constant obsessive thought. I just find myself very often walking on the street, beying out or at home thinking that i am ugly and it’s ruining my mood for a long time. Help!
On the other hand, i am an intelligent girl, I have had a happy relationship for 10 months now; it’s my second and i feel that he is my other half. I feel that he loves me back even though he doesn’t tell it to me. That and his refusing to present me to his family and friends (he is very good looking, 7 years older than me, but this is only his second and longest relationship) makes me crazy because it makes me feel that he’s ashamed with the way i look… I told him how i feel about it, but i didn’t tell him about this thought of mine beying so obsessive. I was given the advice (from different friends) to love myself, but i just don’t manage to!
I spend a lot of time putting on make up in the morning in order to feel "safer" to go out. But i really hate that i’m obliged to "put on a mask" and i’m not even very happy with the results: i still consider my features ugly (i think that make up cannot rise my face to the nowadays standard of "beautiful"), i still feel that boys consider me ugly. (I think boys can more easily love a girl with beautiful face features.) And this makes me silently angry.
I took Prozac for about 3 months (a capsule per day) and continued another 12 months with half of a capsule per day until now. The treatment just helps me not to burst into tears when i have thoughts of being ugly. But the thoughts continue to exist in my head though.
I just want to mange to accept myself as i am. I am really confused what my problem is. Please tell me your opinion. Thank you.
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March 9th, 2010 at 6:01 pm
I can’t say with certainty what’s going on, because I don’t have adequate training, and even if I did, there’s a LOT MORE I would need to know about your past, and more importantly, about your present. The best advice I could give is that you NEED to see a psychotherapist in your area. If you’re in school, you can see if they offer some type of counselling services (they often do). That’s the first thing.
I hope this helps a little. Make sure you find a trustworthy therapist to help you look at these things and figure out how you’re going to work with it.
Take care of yourself as always!!!!!
March 9th, 2010 at 6:01 pm
Look into Body Dysmorphic Disorder
It is an obsessive behavior but it wouldnt be characterized by OCD in it self due to the fact of it being completely surrounded by your disapproval with your looks.
March 9th, 2010 at 6:01 pm
Okay, Im going to keep it simple. As your friends already said, "love yourself." And I know what you mean, since I had this tendency of thinking that I was fat, if not obese; thank goodness I’m over that. : ) Back to you, just forget about it. I’m sure you’re not as bad as you judge yourself! Make-up in my opinion, hides true beauty. Personally, I see women as art, and even if a woman/girl is "ugly," she must have something beautiful about her. See it that way. If your boyfriend thinks you’re ugly, and still stayed with you, he loves you for WHO YOU ARE. : D And admit that his parents have no right to decide whether you’re ugly or not. Besides, who cares? If you’re a good person that really cares about another person, you’re already beautiful. Just remember, he loves you, you love him. <3 x <3 = <3
Best of luck!
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March 23rd, 2010 at 10:15 am
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