If life’s meaning is to survive and pass on our genetics, then what am I here for?
If life’s meaning is to survive and pass on our genetics, then what are we here for?
Countless people have told me when I asked them what the meaning of life was they responded, "To mate and carry on the human population." Honestly, I kind of believe them. It makes sense. It’s in our truest nature to. Everything else is surviving for reproduction to be able to work. Is happiness really ours? Are we really hear to be happy or is it just our self-awareness that makes us believe so? I’m gay and this concept kind of saddens me because I would love to marry a woman and have kids but I am not attracted to women whatsoever and that is what isn’t fair. In our most fundamental purpose is to procreate and yet I cannot procreate with a man so I’m wondering if happiness should be thrown aside and put my natural meaning into play? I don’t acknowledge God as anything because I don’t know if he exists or not so I am not religious. So if God is not real then our sole purpose would to be what our bodies are made to do and that is make offspring and everything else is just human ego [happiness, sadness, ect.] I really don’t want to believe this and I did not get this from any homophobic publication I concluded this all by myself. I’d like to hear intelligent answers and not just biased answers. I want to know if I am truly ****** up and pointlessly living? I want a purpose in life but everything I make meaningful to me in life is masked by this concept I have. Why am I here? Why do I deserve to be happy, and why can I not find women sexually attractive instead of men? What do you think? Should I just admit myself into an insane asylum or take up psychotherapy? Should I just jump off a bridge into the depth of nothing but the ending of a dysfunctional human being?
Sorry about the "we’s" I posted this on the LGBT section before.
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January 27th, 2010 at 7:09 pm
I have always had that same belief, and I know it can be quite crushing sometimes. You don’t want to delude yourself with idealistic "meanings of life", but you also want to believe there’s more to it than birth, sex, and death. In your case, it must be even more difficult, but you have to remember that being attracted to men is no different than being sterile in the sense that you are unable to produce offspring. There’s simply nothing you can do to change yourself, and why would you want to? I suppose you must make a decision: do you continue on the way you are living, happy but without that sense of fulfillment; or do you fulfill the meaning of life, but be unhappy with your female partner? When it comes down to it, procreation may be our fundamental purpose as a species, but we have evolved into sentient beings able to ponder our existence, and therefore things like our own happiness become more important. The new meaning of life might simply be to have fun and enjoy the 80 or so years we have on this planet, and spend them with those we are most comfortable with. Truth be told, the world is quickly becoming overpopulated, and we could do with a few more people like you!
January 27th, 2010 at 7:09 pm
I think in your initial question, you answered yourself.
What are you here for? "To survive and pass on our genetics".
Although, this isn’t how I feel at all, but you decide whatever you like.
January 27th, 2010 at 7:09 pm
Good question. Of course mating and furthering the species is important, but why? There must be a reason behind it? . As the generations pass we become more intelligent, we discover more things about the world around us, and ourselves. More importantly ( and i am not referring to ‘god’ ) one might say we are on some kind of spiritual mission, living many lives in different forms, discovering new things, places, people, knowledge. Perhaps those who discover the most and complete their ’soul’ will go on to another ‘world’. Who’s to say this life is all there is? The universe goes on forever. There’s more to everything than your life on earth. Do as much as you can with your life, it’s short. Time goes on forever. If you make it count, you might get another shot.