is my situation hopeless?
hi,im 28 i have mental health issues which im presentley dealing with with the aid of a social worker, ive been refered for psychotherapy. but im living in a flat( apartment) with alot of youths who live locally. that hang around in gangs and they act very antisocially and aggressive and i feel threatened by them because they virtually live in my back pocket. i feel scared by them and they make the environment very provocating and threatening. and with me having problems with anxiety and controling my anger its making life even tougher to deal with. the youths shout and ‘growl’ obscenities. they act like they own the place and the area. they blast music r n b out at full volume all the time all times of night. im trying to hang in there and find somewhere else to live.. but i really dont need this when i have my own issues to deal with. : (
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March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Call the police. No one needs that garbage.
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Yes
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
always a way
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Honey, if you know God there is never anyone without hope. I will pray for you.
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
No Keep Going Strong And God Bless
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
There is always a solution. It will come.
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Plain and simply, you will not get over your issues until you are in a better environment. You cannot and should not under any reason try to reason with the hoodlums in your area. I suggest you move ASAP.
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
get a machine gun, (my uncle sales them…lol) and blow them away!
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
i agree with abras there is always a way
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
you should go ballistic, or join th marine corps. your choice
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
try to find somewhere else to move where you will feel more comfortable. Good luck
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
focus on that light at the end of the tunnel–you WILL get outa that flat soon, you WILL!–and then make calls starting TOMORROW to find a new place that will be a step up for u to live in. hold up your hope, baby, you can do it, and make sure 2 tell ur counselor/dr about your living situation so they can give u specific strategies 2 deal wit these jerks until u can move out. you can do it, you really can. believe in yourself and hold strong!
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
just hang on call the cops if u need to but dont give up we are all here for u
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Wow, for someone in your situation you seem like a very intelligent and grounded individual. Perhaps the best thing to do is to talk to your social worker about your situation and how it is making you feel. Ask for other options on where you you can live and work together to come up with a possible solution.
good luck
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
You need to remove yourself from the shitehouse situation you find yourself in!
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
suck it up and deal with it
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Sounds like you should work at finding a better flat. Maybe your social worker can help you find something better.
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
I suggest moving out, and if you don’t have the money to just yet, work until you can!! No one should have to deal with what you’re dealing with!
Sailor Star Fighter, out!
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
All you need to think about is that these are just kids, why do you care what they say? If you get scared just phone the police to move them, they’ll soon get sick of being moved.
Think about what makes you happy and focus on that. Take Care…and get a new flat :-p
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
as long as you are alive and kicking you are not hopeless. your feelings will change with courage and cofidence. you are no less than anyone.
sometimes its wiser not to encounter the situation and walk away.
sometimes you should take it on your stride and face it.
have the serenity to know the difference and act.
you have all the help in the world.
have hopes and face it.
Good luck.
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
you just need to do what ever you can to get out of there and get some peace and quiet. i used to live in a really bad neighborhood and whenever i got he chance i would go have lunch and spend sometime in a beutifull nature park, the trees and fresh air would really calm my nerves. i am glad to hear you are getting help for your condition, my brother is manic depressive and i beg him all the time to at least take his medicine, but he doesn’t believe he needs help. its nothing to be ashamed of, we all could use help once in a while
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
your situation is not hopeless, if you talk to your social worker and tell she or he you need a new place to live they will be happy to help you. stupid kids!!! they make to much noise
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Did you ever think of moving to the midwest, It is a slower pace here in the heart land, if you need employment , watch the local situation. SE Iowa is kinda bad at the moment, but some companies likeTyson, and Farmland are hiring and paying decent wages .
Just a idea, just sounds like you need a slower paced life style.
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
i think once you find another place to live and you are able to concentrate on your own problems without some one elses pressures and problems you will be able to resolve your problems because you want to (the fact that you have already reached out for help proves that) but until you find that place you will have to try to hang in and dont give up its not hopeless its just gonna take a little time and patience good luck!
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
No You’re situation is not hopeless. Hang in there, I bet you’re stronger than you think. And if you feel like you’re losing control. Pray and ask God to help you. Start praising God and guess what ‘ll happen those voices of those nasty people with not seem as loud. Your spirit will rise above the noise those boys are making. Just keep looking for a new place and Know you’ve weather the storms already,used your experience from weathering the storm and used it to make yourself stronger and Hold your head up High. I have faith you can get thru this shining so you’ll be able to help others later down the road.
Lynn
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
hi there! am sorry to hear about that. Well, its either you moved out or they. You are still in processing in curing yourself or shall i say overcoming your difficulties. But if theres no other way you could moved out or they,i guess a "sit and talk together would help. Point out which is affecting you and disturbing your health and let them know how you are having the difficulties in dealing with it. At the same time, they can continue their so called activities but, in a time that it could disturb you less. Talk to them in a nice way and maybe , everything could be settled. Sometimes we think the worst one when it could be easier when its done. Goodluck!
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
hey hang in there just a while longer until you can move on. Maybe try to be gone as much as possible and stay out of the activies that they do. With your anxiety you should be on meds. if not then you need to talk to your Dr. about it and give them some time to work. I deal with anxiety and it took about 3-4 months for my meds to really kick in and help a lot I had to change them a few times to find the ones that worked for me and I will tell you that If I hadn’t had just hung in there I would have left my husband and been miserable just hang in that is the best advice I can give you by the way I am 29 and just started dealing with my issues about a year ago although they had been there for almost 3. So good for you for taking the steps that need to be done
so I wish you the best and HANG IN THERE
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Iwill leave running…..and let others take of that situation
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
I don’t know if you’re saying they live with you, or near you. If they live near you, have someone move in with you temporarily that you trust, and explain your situation, so they’re aware of what they’re walking into. That may help ease some tension, a bit. You could always connect with a local church and ask the pastor if there are any members that would be able to give you room and board until you find a better apartment. That’s all I can think of, in the meanwhile, keep the phone near you, the police is only a call away for your safety. Good Luck!
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
I feel sorry for you but fight back… stink bombs are the way to go…
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Praying, while those intentions sound "nice" won’t change a thing.
This is what you need to do.
1)A psychotherapy is fine, but you should also be evaluated by a psychiatrist. An adjustment or additional medication may improve things for you.
2)Your environment is very important. Find another place to live immediately. Even for people not dealing with mental health issues, a bad environment is very hard to deal with. Again, move. Even if you have to life with a friend of family for a while until you get a new place, do it!
3)A huge part of most mental health conditions is the feeling that your situation is hopeless is very common. Your situtation is never hopeless, regardless of what it might seem like. Again, it is never hopeless!
4)Spend as much time away from the bad place as possible. Go to the public library. If the library where you live isn’t a good place, find a better library in a great part of town and visit there. You can walk off the street to any public library and enjoy the resources.
5)Spend time with friends and family who’s company you enjoy. Those that have depressing conversations and don’t make you laugh, forget those, only people who can lift your spirits!
If all this sounds like too much work, just take it one day at a time and work on improving each of those areas. Remember that small changes over time make a big difference.
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
Your situation is not hopeless. You are in an unfortunate situation. Look for other housing as soon as possible. Try to dwell on taking one day at a time. Moment by moment. There is a better way.I know it’s difficult but considering your financial situation, you gotta try to stay focus. I’ve been there. If you need to talk, I have a support group online or you can IM me. lighthouse_halo
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
when music is playing loud after 11pm call the cops….thats distrubing the peace …
March 1st, 2010 at 7:01 am
one famous person asked his god
how he could find peace in a battlefield,
and god answered spirituality is everywhere,
you dont go to a safe place to be spiritual