Why can't I take care of myself?
I’m 21 years old, living in an apartment by myself. I recognize some of my needs and wants but don’t take care of them. I don’t realize or recognize the rest of my needs and wants. Here are some examples -
I will go through all the food and drinks I have and still won’t go to the grocery store for a while. I have to push myself for days before I actually go to get groceries.
I stay up late into the night (watching tv or wasting time online) even though I’m tired and have been looking forward to getting some rest the whole day.
I don’t buy things even though I know I need or want them - clothes, shoes, things for my apartment, etc.
I haven’t seen a general doctor since visiting my pediatrician 4 years ago to get college required shots and information.
I haven’t been to the dentist since 2007. They told me to get my wisdom teeth removed and I haven’t done that either even though my mouth hurts all the time, my teeth are getting messed up, and two of my wisdom teeth have grown in.
The list goes on but I think you get the picture.
I have been in psychotherapy for a year now, I know I’m Codependent, but I need help learning how to start changing my codependent behaviors, especially when it comes to taking care of my needs and wants. What do I do?
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February 23rd, 2010 at 4:36 am
you sound like an average teen from what i read… i noticed theres no difference from you and other kids your age group… at your age kids want to be treated like adults but at the same time not ready to be alone just yet they still need help of an adult (parent)…. basically the only difference between younger kids and kids your age …. is your groups wants sex and they dont… otherwise it’s all the same…both need attention and help in one way or another from a parent if you think about it……
In your case you sound (no offense) lazy… you are unmotivated hence you dont do the things you know you should do…. so like a kid … learn how a parent controls them or ask another one they will all resemble a system of give and take or (do and reward) mechanism… were if they do something they are told or needed they get rewarded…. so do the same for yourself …. find something you can’t live without… like t.v or music… and write a list on a piece of water or wall or w.e just somewere you can see it then… make sure you do each of these things on a daily base or weekly what ever needs to be done…..and if you do them you get t.v or computer that night… if you dont do them punish yourself and dont allow yourself to use those devices…….but make sure you are strict on yourself or it will be worthless.. after a while if you are strict on yourself you will be motivated to do all the things you should so you can get your rewards… and like i’ve told you before get yourself a great boyfriend who WILL ACTUALLY CARE for you and not just be looking for pussy or some fun time.. because that will bring you down….a guy that is compasionate… get your self a nice pisces or cancer….
February 23rd, 2010 at 4:36 am
all you need are
1.listen to music
2.. try to change your housekeeping things.
3. change your life environment
February 23rd, 2010 at 4:36 am
You are not that abnormal, I have not ate food because I was to lazy to make it, I would rather be hungry then cook. I have gone with out medication that was needed because I just keep putting it off going back to the Doctor.Some of it has to do with depression.
I watched a show last night, something called celebrity close encounters. There was a man on there who almost died from a asthma attack. Why? because he never got around to replacing his inhaler.
He said it was just stupid on his part, it was totally preventable.
Like he said, its up to you to take care of yourself, no one else is.